my values

I plan to add more context on how I came up with my values, and why I think they’re helpful to have.
  • It’s better to make things than not. Though I’ve certainly been disappointed by the process of or reaction to things I’ve made, I’ve never regretted creating anything.
  • Over basically any period of time, one of my consistent regrets is not writing more.
  • This Ira Glass quote on the gap between taste and skill.
  • I am not good at predicting what people will find of interest or respond to. So don’t predict, just start!
  • There are way more ways to add insight than I think. Step one doesn’t have to be “Become an expert”.

I’m currently trying to sort out what “counts” as a thing to make. Obviously, I think writing does, but how about things I’ve been more inclined to recently, like hosting events?

  • Having a fixed sense of identity is dangerously inaccurate. Life is long; who knows how many mes I’ll see along the way.
  • Stop saying “I’m not an [activity-doer]” and replace with “I haven’t done much [activity] yet/lately”.
  • Putting in effort or picking up a skill is never for naught. It’ll resurface sometime later, somewhere surprising.
  • This Artist’s Way quote: “It seems to work more like we shake the apple tree and the universe delivers oranges”.

Is having defined values antithetical to fluidity? I don’t think so! I’m striving for fluidity in what I’m capable of and how I see myself, not fluidity in my beliefs or morals.

  • Don’t do things out of a sense of scarcity (What if I never get a chance like this again?). Instead of loss avoidance, act based on what’s actually exciting, and seek to maximize that.
  • This article on abundant thinking synthesizes so much what I’ve been striving for.
  • Assume that for anything good, there’s lots more of it coming down the pipe (friends, opportunities, jobs, etc). It’s probably true, and who cares if it isn’t? I’ll have collaborated more openly and been happier for it anyway.

I realized that most of my life has felt like a game of Rock Band, trying to hit the right notes and rack up a high score. Well, it’s sure looking like there are no right notes 🙀. I recently had a proud moment at dance class, where the instructor said she loved seeing me “up in front, not stressed at all about getting the moves right, just being here happy to move!

  • I already have and am everything I need.
  • Stop waiting for extra-loud, concrete permission.
  • Don’t complain.
  • I always have a unique vantage point and context (as does everyone). Don’t take that for granted; there’s always something to contribute based on this perspective alone.
  • Assume positive intent.
  • Always spend the time and resources on friends who need it. I’ll never look back and miss what was spent.